Since vedic era till date, condition of women from "being worshiped' & respected have gone to 'have to be empowered' by bringing legislation. Where we have missed, where in life of female, the male domination started is still question which is to be discussed separately.
Last week I was watching #PINK movie, an impeccable movie by Mr.Amitabh Bachhan and entire team; Same week had watched #PARCHED, another appreciable movie by Ajay Devgan on real condition of women which is parched itslelf in today's developed society..
By watching these two movie many things from childhood to school days to college time and marriage and as on time had flashed in one go infront of eyes...one of my family person who didnt allowed me to study, struggle of my parents of getting me educated, another person advising my father not to enroll me for engineering but to save money for dowry and so on... I was lucky that my dad was supportive who didnt listened to society and had backed me to grow in professional life.
But question is not of few handful families. Again & again, our society had given us tremendous example to prove that still India is a country where society tries to bluff themselves by saying that they are not radicalist, not orthodox, are educated, respect female in real, treat them equal and are of modern outlook, in simple developed, but in real if will says in terms of "Public Administration terms' sours is a #Prismatic society where youths specifically FEMALE of our generation are still waiting for the day when in real we can be modern society..not in terms of clothes but in terms of MINDSET.
I always mooted for Atheist and casteless society, same can be verified from old posts of mine, the reason is not that by birth I am from a caste which is being treated backward by social pundits, but the region lies in my belief of feminism.
My caste is consider as from ruler clans, people still think themselves as kings and queens of some subas and jagirs and female still treated as object of social showoff..from your class to college degree and from choosing of friends to choosing of life partner, nothing can be done with consent of the female. It is being believed by the patriarchal society and female who have been habituated of living in that environment that for them the question of letting a girl remain 'Single' is unacceptable, no matter even if you give them on legal paper that you want to stay alone because you want it,and one may not like to share his reason for her/his preference of staying alone.
But, can any one help me in figuring that is being female means that you have to dream as guided by your society and you can not do any thing which is not written in the rule book of that society/caste; if you love armours and you want to live with people related to this field, society has no right to dictate you to disallow you.
I noted some known ladies who are now spending their life in some monastery either in Buddhist or in art of living camps on voluntary basis , which made me realize that Unlike boys, some girls also have interest in philanthropy/social service, art, travelling cum adventurous life,and someone will be living to taste and give satisfaction to taste-buds of delicious food and it will be obvious that for her money is of great important but whatever she earns she might want to spend on living life, rather than thinking on how to save money for future.
Its more obvious that if someone has specific type of mindset, compatibility will match with specific type of person and if society forces something on the female, it may be recipe for dangerous tickling time-bomb which either may let her end her own life or make her arrogant and behave as non caring or take some step for survival.
Still, I am trying to figure out whether society have RIGHT to judge a female that how important is DREAMS for her? Whether girl need to explain, what strategy she ought to follow for this or do she need to given proof that if she could not clear it in time-frame given by society , its doesnot means she is not serious for this. Indian patriarchal society has no religion;their sorry can not rewind time.I got griefend by sorrow and get soaked with pain when observe society forces a adolescent female/working independent girl to get married to someone of their choice and console her with false hope that after marriage she will be free to peruse her dreams, forgetting that after marriage, responsibility of entire new family comes over a girl. Saying 'Yes or "No' both situation are painful for a lady which ultimately make her to tolerate all society based emotional dramas which ultimately lead her to #education or leave #JOB ,or becoming a #producing_unit_of_babies .... Females are like ocean, they cant complain, can not cry, perhaps with pressure some females end life, some take tough measures which vilify them in-front of society but give them life of solitude and peace.
Tomorrow, if a girl will fulfill her dream, then no doubt, society will also link its false pride with her dream, and will justify that their action of giving mental pressure was justified by quoting some line from religious scrips...quotes making this copied nazm justified for a life of girl ;)
अभी तलक तो न कुन्दन हुए...न राख हुए , हम ने अपने आग में हर रोज़ जल के देखा है !!
If we are talking about single women, why not try to understand why a female want to remain single. Man is a social animal who love to be in group, want to share, have fun with likely minded person...in midst of this, if someone tries to remain single, it doesnot means the person is unsocial, it shows the person has not got something as per expectation or had decided to stay in solitude for some spiritual purpose. When most of us like love, compassion, family ; a girl prefer to stay single because she is incompatible with boys, with who was fixed via some arrange dating concept by parents and instead of compromising on personal font of life, they preferred to stay single. I wish, most of ladies may stand strong to take this decision.
Movie makers are producing cult movies to show ongoing issue of society, Government is passing legislatures; though by analysis you will find loopholes, but still will appreciate government for atleast thinking for Female. Thanks to all of the stakeholders who are trying bit for us but still wondering when the day will come when in real Societal behavior and mindset will change, when empowerment will be in India in real. Why it is tough for society of #Bhaiyas & #Babus and guardians of social evils to to accept that Tough we are females, still we have dreams which is more important for us than getting married and fulfilling social obligations, we are not made to compromise always...
I believe single women can live life in much better way but unable to understand if someone want to spend life in solitude why society want to force their dreams on her..Moreover,Love doesnot means love to a person..it means love for you dreams..ur Passion, your Zeal...
I agree that it will be time taking for we 'THE FEMALEs to grow strong, or say NO to society but it will happen soon...No more compromise with dreams..We should either live with DREAMS or DIE if have to live a life full of compromises...Let the society think whatever they want,self satisfaction comes from life where you have lived DREAMS..Would like to conclude by quoting lines of our ex-PM shri Atal Bihari Bajpay jee:
हार नहीं मनुगी , रार नई ठानुगी....काल के कपाल पर लिखती मिटाती हूँ..गीत नया गाती हूँ
(gender changed while quoting text)
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